Sandra Oh talks about 'trying to come to a truthful or an agreed-upon reality in the larger picture of what we know' about fairness in work and careers
I've watched countless DEI initiatives fail because they started with what's broken rather than what's possible. When you lead with shared vision instead of shared guilt, people actually want to participate rather than just comply. This applies to conversations online too.
I'm just one voice yet I agree with you. For some people, they are moved more to act by the harm they hear people suffered and keep suffering and I do believe we need to make space for those negatively impacted to share their pain.
I also see a lot of resistance online because people either feel shamed or guilty so you writing, "When you lead with shared vision instead of shared guilt, people actually want to participate rather than just comply" seems like an approach that may, in some instances at least, produce more receptiveness to poise, not getting triggered, and a willingness to understand and help. Yet, I'm just a sample size of one.
And a Happy Monday to Neela, may your week include pleasant surprises.
Maybe the real skill is reading the room and knowing when to lead with vision versus when to center lived experiences. It’s kind of how you see the yelling against men online. I get the pain and the frustration. There’s a gender disparity. I’ve experienced this a lot in tech, but my strongest allies have been men, so I can’t lump everyone together. Honestly, my biggest obstacles were women. I even stopped working with female clients. But that’s a story for another day Michael.
It's always helpful to pay attention and learn how to read the room. That's a smart point. Very challenging situationally and for many people, yet less difficult if when the communication, listening and caring is consistent.
Another smart point about gender disparity: we can agree is exists, is damaging and that an entire gender, whichever one it is, is never rotten. Certain members of it, in this case men, are though.
What you wrote about women above is something more than a few women have also said. They aren't always professional, ethical and supportive. I sense an article will be coming one day. :) Thank you for this conversation. I always learn from reading and talking with Neela. Hope the week goes well.
Happy Monday Michael
This is what people don't get.
I've watched countless DEI initiatives fail because they started with what's broken rather than what's possible. When you lead with shared vision instead of shared guilt, people actually want to participate rather than just comply. This applies to conversations online too.
I'm just one voice yet I agree with you. For some people, they are moved more to act by the harm they hear people suffered and keep suffering and I do believe we need to make space for those negatively impacted to share their pain.
I also see a lot of resistance online because people either feel shamed or guilty so you writing, "When you lead with shared vision instead of shared guilt, people actually want to participate rather than just comply" seems like an approach that may, in some instances at least, produce more receptiveness to poise, not getting triggered, and a willingness to understand and help. Yet, I'm just a sample size of one.
And a Happy Monday to Neela, may your week include pleasant surprises.
Maybe the real skill is reading the room and knowing when to lead with vision versus when to center lived experiences. It’s kind of how you see the yelling against men online. I get the pain and the frustration. There’s a gender disparity. I’ve experienced this a lot in tech, but my strongest allies have been men, so I can’t lump everyone together. Honestly, my biggest obstacles were women. I even stopped working with female clients. But that’s a story for another day Michael.
It's always helpful to pay attention and learn how to read the room. That's a smart point. Very challenging situationally and for many people, yet less difficult if when the communication, listening and caring is consistent.
Another smart point about gender disparity: we can agree is exists, is damaging and that an entire gender, whichever one it is, is never rotten. Certain members of it, in this case men, are though.
What you wrote about women above is something more than a few women have also said. They aren't always professional, ethical and supportive. I sense an article will be coming one day. :) Thank you for this conversation. I always learn from reading and talking with Neela. Hope the week goes well.